Why Everybody Must Die.
Published 04/18/2011 | 
The hard part about growing up is that eventually, you have to kill Everybody.
Before Everybody kills you.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Everybody (even when I don’t like them much). But things just aren’t working out between me and Everybody anymore. It’s not Everybody’s fault. Because Everybody does exactly what They are supposed to do. Everybody is perfect at being Everybody.
And so are They.
Hence…..
Yup. They have to go too.
Too bad. So sad.
But… worrying about what Everybody and They think can send a girl into a tailspin.
I hate when That happens.
Speaking of That…
Sometimes That gives me a lot of Sh!t.
And so…
New rule…
I’m not taking That Shit anymore!
And I want Everyone to respect my choices.
But, since Everyone does what Everybody says….
Sorry Everyone. I had to do it. You refused to find a way to respect my decisions.
I tried to tell Them. I really did. But it was impossible for Them to understand. What mattered to Them was that I do it just like Them, see it just like Them, think just like Them, act just like Them.
Can you guess what happens next?
I really really hate to see Them go. I love Them too, as much as I love Everybody.
Darn Them!
So…
…what happens when you kill Everybody and Everyone and They, Them, and That (including That’s Shit)?
Well, at first, it feels like this:
Yeah, it kinda sucks like that. This ‘taking your power back’ stuff isn’t always easy. But it’s what you need to do if you want to live life on your terms.
And then, slowly, you notice this new feeling.
The tightness is your chest begins to ease. You feel lighter. Your other relationships improve. The ones that really matter to you.
You might even start to feel…
Happy. Free. In charge of your own life.
And then… here’s the really fun part….
You find a new Everybody.
And a new Everyone.
And a new Them, They, and That. And the really cool part is, because you took your power back by slaying ‘you know’, the new people and things in your life will be just right for you.
They will lift you up. Higher. And higher.
Oops, I almost forgot one.
You are going to love The New You. In fact, she’s why you got all those other icky people out of your life in the first place. You took your power back.
It starts with You.
And Me, of course.
It all about Me.
Your turn.
Who’s your Everybody?
Is it time to take back your power?
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Like many of your posts Lin I wondered where this one was going, but what a great take on an age old problem–delivered with classic Worst Mother flair. Like an arrow to the gut. Thanks for the reminder today.
LOVE THIS! I just presented this concept in a workshop this past weekend, but not nearly so eloquently and powerfully. So don’t be surprised if my next blog reads merely “Yeah. What she said!” and links to this post. Of course, I’ll have to find just the right song…any suggestions?
BIG LOVE!
Linda
Very well explained. Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Lin – I am so blessed to have you as part of my new Everybody. It makes my new me smile from the inside out. And, as you say, it was well worth the initial pain to end up in a place where I am supported by folks who respect my decisions and want for me the kind of life that I want for myself. Thank you for playing a part in that.
Bull’s eye, Lin – you’re one heck of an archer
Awesome! I have personally enjoyed creating a new everybody over the past 2 years and it’s been amazing. My life will never be the same, thank goodness.
I are them. xoxoxo Terah
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@ Kimberly… I often wonder where I’m going. And then I get There. I like it There.
@ Linda…. “I will survive” by Gloria Gaynor… one of my all time faves!!!
@ Gail… right on my friend!
@ Ashley… you are the sweetest thing. And one hot mama to boot!
@ Naomi… who knew? Only one arrow required!
@ Dana… I’m so glad you have a new Everyone! Did you ever have to contend with That and That Shit??
It’s time for me to share this blog with Everybody. Especially my therapy clients. They will surely benefit from You and your wisdom and your hilarious way of making a hugely important point.
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I feel I’m just beginning to create my new everyone. I just posted a blog that was really scary and made me feel all vulnerable and schtuff. One of the old everyone sent one of their old opinions with a touch of a new opinion about me. It felt weird, but I let them have their opinion and shot a virtual arrow and went on my merry way. That feels amazing. And it’s thanks to you Lin. You and the circle you gave me one day when you coached me.
xoxo
Katie…. that is so cool… LOVE that you took a step out of your comfort zone. Who needs Them, anyway?