The Land of WTF

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A letter to my Gutsy Glorious Girlfriends

welcome to the land of wtfDear Girlfriends (many of whom are coaches),

I’m sitting in a hotel room in California contemplating all that I have in my life.

It is a beautiful life I have created.
Four children I am crazy in love with…
A husband with whom I have a deep connection…
A gorgeous home on the water…
Work that I love love love…
And an adorable dog that makes me crazy…
And yet…

There are times (fewer and much farther between these days) when my focus gets drawn away from all that I have, into a dangerous place I call, The Land of WTF.

The Land of WTF

What is this place? It’s a place where we go in our heads and it’s really hot in there, and not the kind of hot we like.

It’s dangerous because it’s where all those insidious ‘you’re not enough’ thoughts like to hide out with their buddies ‘what’s wrong with you?’ and ‘seriously, WTF!’

I hate it in there, exclamation points!!!! I used to casually stroll in for a visit all the time. It started somewhere around the age of six, or maybe it was 8, no I’m pretty sure it was 5, when my kindergarten teacher humiliated me and stuck me in a corner for the whole day and forgot I was there.

When In Doubt, Blame Someone Else!

So, here’s the thing: the fact that I can sometimes still feel that very old, tired (and boring!!!) feeling is no longer because of that teacher; it’s because of what I allow myself to think about ME, today, as a card-carrying adult who knows better than my 5-year-old self (who simply didn’t have the brain power to understand that that teacher thought humiliation was a good teaching tactic and that I am not actually “forgettable.”)

And here’s the good news: I now know that when I enter the Land of WTF, I have the ability to quickly get myself out and back into The Land of Guts, Grit, and Glory, where I rightfully belong.

There is nothing more important–scratch that–there is nothing I wish more for you than to learn how to get yourself out of The Land of WTF and back into The Land of GG&G. Notice that I’m not saying you must avoid The Land of WTF at all costs, because my dear Girlfriend, you will undoubtedly find yourself in there out of force of habit.

Face it. Embrace it. Don’t fight it. (Feel free to roll your eyes like I do and exclaim, “HERE? AGAIN?)

Recognize That Feeling

There’s a certain feeling you have–a very old, tired feeling; that’s your first clue that you’ve entered a dangerous place. It’s filled with lies and hurtful things. You cannot learn and grow in there. The only thing you can do is haul your ass out licketty split!

It amazes me that, despite my glorious life, I can still get sucked into The Land of WTF. But I think it’s arrogant of me to think I shouldn’t have to deal with that old, tired shiitake anymore. Who am I to say “I’m over it,” when the Big U is showing me how I’m still hanging on to “it,” even if by a thread.

This is my work.

You have your work.

There is NOT ONE PERSON YOU KNOW who does not have work to do. Whether they choose to do it or not is not your business.

Your business, my dear girlfriend, is to muster up your guts… they’re in there somewhere.

And while you’re at it, bare your teeth a little and show off your grit.

Display grace under fire, no matter how hot it gets in The Land of WTF.

And above all else, take responsibility for creating the glory in your life.

And when all else fails, listen to my favorite Christina Aguilera song:

Don’t look at me
Everyday is so wonderful
Then suddenly
It’s hard to breathe
Now and then I get insecure
From all the pain
I’m so ashamed
I am beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can’t bring me down
Oh no
So don’t you bring me down today
To all your friends you’re delirious
So consumed
In all your doom, ooh
Trying hard to fill the emptiness
The pieces gone
Left the puzzle undone
Ain’t that the way it is
You’re beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can’t bring you down
Oh no
You’re beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can’t bring you down
Oh no
So don’t you bring me down today
In love and guts,
Lin xo

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